How do you cope with change? Does the word make you cringe? We go through change from the day we were born, however it’s not easy for some of us. We cant avoid it, if the change is made to be positive and exciting, you may find yourself curious yet your nerves or anxiety may be triggered.
During this time of age it’s okay to feel the way you are feeling, do the best you can do to adapt to the change. For me, I’ve recently moved away from home and wow my anxiety is high. So I’m learning to adapt.
Right now I am having some down time, tears and relaxing music, I’ll have a cup of tear. I’ve put unpacking to the side for a while because I need a break. Taking a step back, to breathe or meditate when anxiety us high is recommended.
Other ideas to adjust/adapt…
Create a safe place in your home where you can relax and take a break. Write your thoughts down or start a blog. Have a shower or bath. Warm drinks help me. Paint or draw. Put in relaxing music. Create some form of routine. Read. Have time to your self. Be with nature. Cuddle someone you love.
Take a step back and observe the situation. Think of strategies to handle that is positive. Remind yourself that you need to accept the things you can not change, but you can adapt.
Are you stressed, overwhelmed or is it anxiety? What is your current situation that may have brought these feelings on? How can you respond positively to reduce “explosion” (making things worse)
So I suffer from a personality disorder, and I’ve started a new job which can be quite stressful. I was overwhelmed and my eyes were watering but I kept breathing, when I’m overwhelmed anxiety hangs around and I had to ask for help and that is okay. Remind yourself asking for help does not mean you can’t do your job. It does not mean you are weak, we are not perfect. Usually I would avoid work for a few days after a stressful situation but not this time, Im going back tomorrow because I like to remind myself that tomorrow is a different day.
Breathe, take a step back and evaluate the situation, the chain of events, put in place strategies that have previously worked or something you’d like to try that may help you, accept you are doing the best you can, there will be support around you just ask, praise yourself about what you have achieved to get through this.
We talk about how there are two sides to every storey or maybe more. We talk about effort and trying, we talk about promises being kept and being broken. We talk about effort like it’s a bad thing.. “that’s too much effort!”
However effort can be positive, I prefer it being positive. I believe effort holds relationships in place, I believe effort helps us reach other goals and I believe effort keeps a family together.
I don’t like change but I don’t like events in my life that I can not change. I need to keep reminding myself that there will be things in my life that I cannot change and yes it may set me back or put a hold on things, but just as proven previously I can get through it, whatever it is. Today I said out loud, “I need to accept the things I cannot change. I need the courage to change the things I Can to help me through the things I cannot change…”
Yummo, with cream cheese in the fridge I wanted something to do with it rather than wasting it. So I decided to make Mini Cheesecakes. The recipe is for 6 but ended up having enough mixture for a few more. Feel free to try this recipe.
250g of room temp cream cheese, – 1 tsp of vanilla extract (if you don’t have that use maple syrup, can use more than a teaspoon to bring out the maple flavour) – 1 tablespoon lemon juice – 2 eggs mix in separately – 1/2 cup caster sugar – granita biscuits for the base or choc ripple
Have you ever been to a place where your heart feels at peace within yourself and the world, a place where the wind blows by and the water ripples, maybe your place isn’t like that but it still keeps you at peace with the world. A place to meditate a place to remember, a place to think.
Maybe you are like me who has a place where the water flows, the wildlife sing and the wing blows. A place where the world doesn’t feel against you.
I always found this place to be my go to when I needed time feel at peace with the world. I use to come here as a kid. I would also remember the time my step father drove away, I remember watching him drive away. I know that’s a bad memory, but i was down here to spend time by myself to listen to the wind, to be a kid and play in the park, I had friends who lived near here too.
But there is a time in our lives we were the happiest and a place and we end up re visiting to remember.
We never scattered her ashes, they are still in pas room. Maybe it’s comfort for him. A years later and I still struggle with grief. I still wear her dressing gown as comfort, I still talk to her doll and I still pray that she is with me when I go to achieve new things.
Today I found out that when she passed, hospice, is holding a remembrance day for her and fellow hospice clients, she gets her own spot in the rose garden. For some reason I want to be there but I’d rather be at work as she’d understand. I k ow she would. Plus everysincr she passed on she has been communicating with me in her own little way.